Great read for people-pleasers (of which I am recovering from).
This bit really spoke to me: “Your coworkers will eventually figure out that your responses are tailored to what people will approve of - that they aren’t authentic. This will make them quickly lose trust in you. It’s hard to trust someone who is pretending to be someone else, even if it is to keep everyone happy.”
As a new Team Lead, I’m learning that making people happy is not my job. In fact if I strive for that, I’ll quickly lose the trust if my team, and make poor choices.
Healthy conflict is a tool to find better solutions to hard problems. Let’s embrace it, and embrace being respectful to others as we disagree and eventually commit.
Great read for people-pleasers (of which I am recovering from).
This bit really spoke to me: “Your coworkers will eventually figure out that your responses are tailored to what people will approve of - that they aren’t authentic. This will make them quickly lose trust in you. It’s hard to trust someone who is pretending to be someone else, even if it is to keep everyone happy.”
As a new Team Lead, I’m learning that making people happy is not my job. In fact if I strive for that, I’ll quickly lose the trust if my team, and make poor choices.
Healthy conflict is a tool to find better solutions to hard problems. Let’s embrace it, and embrace being respectful to others as we disagree and eventually commit.
Thanks for sharing, Bhavana 🙌🏻